when was the last time you were told to cover up because you were showing too much skin?
do you worry about whether you’ll send the ‘wrong message’ to women if you wear something tight?
do you get verbally and sexually accosted by women when you walk around in public without a shirt?
what steps do you take on a daily basis to protect yourself against assault?
how many times have you given out a fake number because you felt it would be dangerous to turn a girl down?
when you’re at a bar, or a party, do you take your drink to the bathroom with you so you don’t get drugged?
will you decline an invitation to an event where you don’t know many other people unless you have another guy friend to go with you because you know safety is in numbers?
do you text the license plate of the girl you’re out with to your friends, just in case?
does your family warn you to be careful and safe before you go on a first date?
before you go anywhere?
what do you do when you walk alone at night?
do you hold your keys between your fingers like a makeshift set of brass knuckles?
have you bought mace? a rape whistle?
have 911 pre-dialed and phone in hand?
does a friend know to expect your call to let them know you’ve made it to your destination safely?
do they know to call the police if they can’t reach you by a certain time?
when you try to explain to your female friends your long history of negative experiences with the opposite sex, do they tell you “but not all women are like that”?
how often do you get called pet names by complete strangers?
do you avoid holding eye contact with women you don’t know?
how many times has a woman tried to make you feel like you owed them sex because they were nice to you?
how many times have you felt unsafe because of the sexual advances of a woman?
how many times did they refuse to take no for an answer?
how many times have you been *almost* raped?
are you concerned that if you choose to have a child that you might lose your current employment?
are you worried that your doctor would deny you a vasectomy if you wanted one because they thought you might regret your decision?
are you afraid that you will be stripped of all your reproductive rights every time someone new gets elected?
do you feel like the government is trying to take control of your body?
do you feel like the government is trying to own your body?
when you see men depicted in shows and movies, is the source of their power almost always about how sexually attractive women find them?
despite how strong a male character is in an action flick, does he almost always have to be saved by a woman in the end?
how many times have you seen a man say ‘no’ to sex on TV?
after being pressured did he give in?
did he get assaulted if he kept saying ‘no’?
do you feel like if you’re too attractive no one will take you seriously, but if you’re not attractive enough no one will pay attention to you at all? in school? at work? online?
did you and all your guy friends know which teacher would give you a better grade if you showed some skin and acted flirtatious?
do you feel like it’s easier to get what you want by acting nonthreatening and stupid than by standing up for yourself?
when you’re emotional do you get accused of being hormonal?
when you take no shit do you get called bossy?
when you want to be seen as sexy do you get called a slut?
when you choose to have sex with whoever you want do they call you the ‘town bicycle’, a whore, told that you have no shame, you must not value yourself if you go around giving it away for free, what woman’s gonna wanna marry your used up dick if you keep screwing around, don’t you have any self respect?
Do you feel
that after centuries of fighting for your basic rights as a man
that you’ve finally found equal footing with women in the world?